I Was a Sponsor

Like many others, I was a sponsor. When I did something good, I expect good back. Until, I had a taste of my own medicine.

Its like, most parents who expects their children to be somebody when they grow up or to pay back all those years they took care of them. I too, am guilty; I constantly claim that Ashten (older) will be a lawyer and Jordan (younger) a doctor. For what? For my own ego and pride, so that people will say I have done a great job. But who gets the pressure?



Ponder on this

If you train your child well (Bluntly, if you have done your homework properly) you do not have to worry about whether they are appreciative or doubt their integrity. You will know your child attributes and you do not need another person approval of what they think of them.

Parents often unknowingly place this guilt trip. The common phase "After all I have done for you..."

In return, we expect to have a SAY in our children's life (I mean when they are adults), we want them to listen and respect us because after all, we have done so much.

Sponsors

Aren't we like sponsor of an event? My sponsors expect their company's branding on banners and the emcee to thank their efforts when doing his closing. They expect power, recognition and credits. But that's fine, its business.

Friends

For Christmas, I was given an expensive dinner and I wanted to buy a gift of the same value back. Then S, (my darling girlfriend) snapped "You don't have to be so calculative, now you are not working just let me pay, why must you always make sure you repay good with good"?

That made sense to me, I was like she is my closest friend for donkey years, we know we never had the intention to take advantage of one another, why cause myself this kind of unnecessary stress. In other words, she was telling me I do not have to prove to her.

G (Emcee)

G was my regular emcee for 04 years. Every year, he would probably profit about 30k from the shows. His fees are not exactly affordable, but because I know his financial difficulties, I do my best to recommend him. When preparing payments, I will make sure he is the first to receive. However, he has never once treated me for a meal or even a cup of tea, the bill will automatically be directed to me. Even when he met my sister for dinner (my sister was not working then), she had to pay for his dinner. I was hopping mad; I wanted to tell him off. Now, I am glad I didn't.

Doing Good

So I have learned, when you want to do good, make sure it comes from the heart, if not it is worthless. If you constantly expect someone to repay you, you have an 80% chance to be disappointed.

Mother Teresa

Browsing through her biography, I am amazed what a big hearted woman she was. She started with nothing, just a pure heart to love mankind. Later on in life, she received a Nobel Prize, recognition, some folks even worship her. But did she take advantage of that? Never, she continued to love people till the day she passed on.

The Special People

I would like to acknowledge a few people who are special to me.

My Family

Especially my step-father Raymond who even though I am not used to calling Daddy, he has always been there to do the silliest things for me. Buy food, fix my glasses and fetch me here and there...

My Husband

Mark, who helped me to run my business by doing those "Unglam" jobs, like being my chauffeur for meetings, faxing, scanning and printing of documents, assisting me in my events (E.g. tie balloons to chairs) While doing that for an event, he said "I am a graduate in Physics and a manager of an MNC company, why am I doing this"? Honey, thank you.

My Jewels

I hope this blog will still be active when they are older to read. I love you very much Ashten & Jordan and thank you for bringing me so much love and joy. You have encouraged me to treasure life and aim to become a better person.

My Friends

Thank you for being there for me especially last year when I had my lowest moments. You guys and gals brought me so much laughter while having to endure my nonsense.

With Love,

Mich